It's easy to tell someone whose world is crumbling around them to just pick up the rubble and begin to build something new, but it isn't that easy. When the world is falling before your eyes, you need to dig deep to find the strengh to rebuild. Whether we like it or not, that strength usually begins as anger, and anger is messy. To remake the world we must get ourselves dirty enough to see ourselves as something new when we decide to clean up.